Now think of yourself in the same way: there is harmony, but there is also chaos. There is beauty, but there are also flaws. Can you locate them?
When the tapestry of love falls apart, it's usually because its threads couldn't withstand the weight of its flaws. These flaws include all of the chaos causing aspects of human nature: fear, insecurity, jealousy, selfishness, self-rejection, self-hate, anger, resentment, and deceit. Under the weight of these flaws, relationships break and the threads of love fall apart.
Knowing your "love tapestry," and all of your colors--both the beautiful ones and the flawed ones--is key to understanding the tapestry of your mate.
Remember the Law of Attraction: We attract, and are attracted to those who are similarly beautiful and similarly flawed!
"Ah! But my mate deceived me and broke my heart. I would never do that to anyone!" You might be saying. Not so fast!
The Universe is a beautiful mechanism that provides the structure and opportunity for the spirit of human nature to evolve and heal, and mature past its flaws; every experience we have, especially those we have in love, provides us with the opportunity to heal and grow, and to mend our flaws.
The greatest gift to humankind from the Universe is the ability to know ourselves; the capacity for self-knowledge and awareness are what separates us from the animal and natural kingdoms; we have an intelligence that is unmatched, and we can use that intelligence to create positive experiences for ourselves, or negative ones if we choose.
The choice is ours, and we can choose who we love and to whom we give our hearts. After all, self-love itself is a choice.
If you find yourself experiencing repeated disappointment or sadness in love, or even failed love, you are not a victim of a "cruel Universe" or cold world, you are a child-student of a Universe that loves you very much and is investing its energy in your growth. The moment you begin to invest in your growth is the moment the Universe begins to match your efforts; in this moment you realize that you are not alone, you are being supported, and all along it was you who needed fixing, not others.
Once you know who you are, including the flawed parts that need healing, you will know what you are attracting and you will refine that which you are attracted to.
You will attract your perfect match, and together you will weave a love tapestry that is rich, durable, and everlasting.
Step one starts today! Get a journal and record your thoughts, get to know who you are and let the Universe work its magic in your life!
Peace and Blessings,