We’ve all had times of preoccupation with self-doubt, haven’t we?
Usually these preoccupying thoughts plague our minds and cause us to obsess about a personal encounter, or relationship.

You know what I mean.

It’s that nagging feeling of worry where the inner monologue goes something like this: “Did I say the wrong thing?” “Have I destroyed this relationship?” “It’s my fault.” “I’m messed up.”

I’m here to squelch that inner monologue, dismantle those questions, and say: No. It isn’t your fault, and you’re not messed up, but you’re having these experiences with rejection because you’ve just told yourself that you’re unlovable.

Now listen carefully:

​Self-blame is the ego’s way of looking for control. The ego dislikes the feeling of helplessness, and so it wants you to blame yourself so that you can trick your mind into thinking that you can fix others or situations.

The ego likes control, and the essence of control is fear in disguise.

Truth is:

You can’t fix anyone, except yourself. If you are preoccupied by rejection, it means that you have karmic work to do in this life with self-acceptance.

Aha! Self-acceptance and karma;

Hence, we get to the purpose of this piece, which is about fixing the Self so that the mind doesn’t obsess about the desire for others’ love and acceptance.

Karma has been written about many times, and I’m not here to debate it. The way I think of Karma is those unmet desires that bring us into human existence over and over again.

Karma is the soul’s urging to heal and grow.

Therefore, all human experiences are designed around healing and growth.

And those experiences are designed by you, and your soul. Got it?

No victim mentality, OK? You, as your soul, designed your earthly experiences for the purposes of growth and healing.

If you want love from another,and are driven by that need, you have karmic work to do on self-acceptance. The following are tips to lead you in that direction.

Tips for Healing Karma:

1. Don’t strive for others’ acceptance. Work on self-acceptance; all that striving does is to undermine your self-esteem and cause you to doubt yourself more.
2. You are your Magic Number, which is The Number One! You are here to recognize your Oneness and to own it. No one else can bestow it upon you!
3. Yes, perceived rejection can hurt, but that’s all it is: Perceived!
4. Rejection is a blessing in disguise to help you accept yourself for once and for all!
5. If people show you that they can’t accept your attachment to them, they are not worthy of it. Move on!
6. You are not here to suffer. You’re here to grow and to transform. Embrace your unique process, don’t compare yourself to others, and celebrate your victories over pain and trauma!
7. Become what you want to attract! If you want to attract a decent partner or friends, work on becoming the mirror image of what you desire.

In closing, we live in a world of love-starvation because most of us haven’t learned to love ourselves sufficiently. Instead, we look for love outside of ourselves and form attachments to partners and situations that reinforce our negative and worst beliefs about ourselves.
We attempt to shirk our karma, but we can’t.
Self love is perhaps the most difficult of karmic lessons that human beings can undertake, but if we recognize that it begins with self, we can undo the shackles of self-doubt that keep us in unwanted patterns of pain for once and for all.
Submitted with Love,
Michelle
For consultations about life and love, contact me at [email protected].

Nearly all of us have had highly charged romantic experiences where we’ve felt an exhilarating surge of hope and excitement that seemingly disappeared just as quickly as it began. Times when our feelings of romantic excitement were handily replaced by weeks and sometimes months of lingering self-doubt and the pangs of rejection when romance failed to flourished.

We blamed ourselves, we felt unworthy, we asked why?
Yes, that’s the rollercoaster ride called romance, and living in a world of diminishing empathy and increasing selfishness, things are certainly bound to get worse before they get better.

So, how do we equip ourselves with the tools to navigate through this rocky terrain and avoid the emotional rollercoaster ride of hope and disappointment in romance?

We approach each interaction from a grounded and practical expression our authentic selves from the outset, that’s how.

Now, throw away those rose colored goggles for once and for all, OK?
I’m sure you’ve come across dating tips and romantic advice through social media and other forms of mass communication, but what I’m going to ask is that your follow me on a journey of self-exploration and reflection, so that by the end of this piece you will feel empowered and prepared to change the tenor of your romantic experiences for the better.

Ready? OK. I’ll begin here with three main pointers, or “best practices”:

1. No Assumptions: How many times have you been in a romantic or pre-dating situation where you assumed that if you gave more you would get more, especially if you felt the other becoming distant? I know, I’ve read about the Law of Attraction, but it’s not entirely true, so put it on the shelf for sometime in the distant future. When we give too much of ourselves, and especially too quickly or too freely, we lose mystery, and people LOVE mystery. Our attention isn’t valuable if we just give it away. No assumptions! Romance can’t flourish if we’re trying to coerce it along by misusing our attention and generosity.
2. Set Standards: Do you know what you will accept and what you won’t? If you don’t have standards, you can’t teach others how to treat you. Create a template of standards for yourself. Make one column showing what you expect, the next showing what you would compromise on, and the next showing what is totally unacceptable (your deal-breakers.) Become very familiar with that template and stay true to it!
3. Be Honest: If you are looking for a long-term relationship, say so, and say it up front. If the other person is intimidated by your true desires, then let them go. No harm done. Plus, it will keep you from being deceptive with them and yourself about your feelings and manipulative with your actions. You don’t want game players, so don’t be one!

When we are grounded, we act from a place of self-worth, integrity and confidence—all of which help to ensure rewarding experiences in romance, dating and love relationships—false assumptions, lack of standards, and emotional dishonesty set us up for disappointment. When we are confident, we create. When we are fearful, we destroy.

And we want to create, right? We want to establish a meaningful connection, yes?

Listen, there will always be the proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing, and the only way to tell if you’ve attracted one of those into your universe is to be steady, patient and diligent in getting to know others.

I always say that romance is like a piece of fragile glass; it can shatter easily and be totally destroyed by the slightest mishandling. But, what we can do to ensure the best possible outcome is to remember that true connection begins in the mind and intellect at the higher levels of being. So, don’t sabotage yourself by working against the laws of gravity by jumping into the sack too quickly! Rather, begin each connection at the crown chakra and slowly work downward to the root and sexual chakras.

Attempting to form a connection in the reverse order is the same as working against the laws of gravity: Impossible!! 
Being practical means keeping your assumptions in check, your standards high, and your honesty consistent. If people come and go while you’re testing these new “best practices,” don’t be discouraged. It just means that you’re in the process of manifesting a higher and more satisfactory cast of characters and on your stage.

Let me know how it goes! And in the meantime, put on a fresh face and sit back and watch how your romantic life begins to flourish!

​In Light & Love,
Michelle

There’s nothing like predictability in our daily lives, is there? We generally like knowing what to expect, and we thrive in structure.

But, in the midst of our focus on predictability and structure our daily lives can become monotonous and drab—our senses and minds can become dim and one dimensional—until we can scarcely see or feel the colors and vibes of Spirit moving all around us.

Then life can become gray, or worse, black and white.

Yikes!  What is life when lived in gray, or black and white?

Now, if you’re like me, and too much structure and predictability don’t appeal to you—and you need to dance and feel the freedom of being enchanted by a variety of tones, textures, sensations, thoughts and vibrations—then you also thrive in Spirit!

“I meditate” you might be saying, but let’s face it, meditation and mindfulness are all fine and good, and they definitely have their benefits, but for the majority, they just lead to more thinking, or at least attempts at thinking about not thinking.

Doesn’t sound like so much fun!

What I’m talking about here is not cerebral. It’s very much experiential and involves all the senses being opened to the world of enchantment that I call Spirit!

Alright, I know that there are several definitions of “Spirit” floating around out there, but I like to define it as the source of intelligence and activating force behind all the movements and manifestations of creation.

To me, Spirit is no thing yet it is in and vibrating around every thing.

So, before the metaphysicians jump on my back with a lot of talk about consciousness and other stuff, can we agree to just keep the definition as simple as possible?

I mean, definitions and philosophizing are great, but the most important thing here to remember is that Spirit is alive and being in touch with it enhances our aliveness!

And there’s little better than feeling truly alive!

​Tips:

1. Keep Vibrant Colors in Your Space: Don’t be afraid to splash your home or work environment with different and uplifting colors. I love golden shades of yellow, and deeper shades of red, and nearly all shades of green and purple. Go for it! If the eyes are the windows to the soul, then they have two sides. Feed the windows to your soul with beautiful colors, especially those of fresh flowers!
2. Surround Yourself with Living Things: Now, some may argue that all things are living, but what I’m talking about here are things such as plants, crystals, perhaps fish, or bamboo—whatever that is alive with Nature and that feeds your Nature—surround yourself with it.
3. Excite Your Sense of Smell: If in you’re in an office setting, you can keep a bottle or bottles of your favorite essential oils on hand to uplift or soothe your energy centers. Keep them on hand! At home you may decide to burn scented candles or incense, or even potpourri—let’s not forget the aromas of food—cook beautiful food for yourself and your family and watch how a tone is set in your environment by the wafting aromas!
4. Ground Yourself in Sound: One of my favorite things to do is to listen to the music of Creation—the birds, wind blowing through the trees, the sound of the rain, the waves of the ocean, the stillness of winter, the rustling of leaves, the sound of children laughing, and even the scampering of the squirrels. Of course, music, especially made by the artfulness of human hands and voices is essential to life and living—so make sure you stay in touch with it—let the music play!  
5. Radiate Gratitude: Little more keeps us in touch with Spirit than gratitude; it opens us to the doorway of devotion. Each day, make it a habit to turn your frown upside down.:-) Smile at others, smile at life, lend an ear to a friend, pay a compliment to a stranger, let your heart expand with the sensation of gratitude for all that you are, all that you have, and all that you can give. Don’t forget to say thank you to yourself each morning—like this for instance, “Thank you Michelle, for waking up and feeding your children a healthy breakfast. Thank you, Michelle for taking time to pray and practice devotion. Thank you, Michelle for being a good mother, friend, sister, auntie, lover and human. Thank you, Michelle for your commitment to healing and growth.” Then, after thanking yourself, say to Life “I love you!”

While I acknowledge that this list is simple (as it was meant to be), I encourage you to add to it and watch yourself build up a set of habits and rituals that keep you in touch and alive with Spirit!
Thank you for reading. I welcome all feedback and comments.
In gratitude,

As a self-employed mother of four, including two sons with disabilities, I understand how the distractions of life, its stressors and anxieties can fill our minds with fears about the future, and pains about the past.
But what do they say? “Life is 10 percent of what happens to us, and 90 percent of who we become.” Correct?
Well, that is the focus of this entry. It’s about what happens to us and who we become.  It is about getting in touch with who we are, so that we can see clearly into who we are becoming.
People visit psychics for a variety of reasons, but let’s be honest, the main reason is to get predictions. While inquiring about what’s ahead in life can help provide insight and ease fears, it’s important not to allow predictions to replace the inner voice of the soul and our human relationship with the ebbs and flows of life.
Though there are several techniques that exist to balance our energy centers and still the mind, including meditation, the key to finding peace of mind is through daily ritual, and meditation is just one.
Often taught as a form of ego-visualization, at the expense of an expanded imagination, some forms of meditation can lead us to think that our minds alone can control the outcomes of our lives. Not true. The unique power of the imagination is that it frees the mind from wanting control, which is fear in disguise, and the anxieties of everyday life.
The unique power of the imagination is that it frees the mind so that it can communicate with the highest potential of the soul.
Remember when you were a child, and could escape to faraway places through your imagination, maybe through books or just plain child’s play? Times when perhaps you could see or sense angels and fairies, and allow them to guide you higher into their realms? That is what I’m talking about. I’m not talking wishing and trying to impose the desires of the ego to manifest in the physical plane. No, no. Not that at all. This type of imagining is about freedom FROM the ego, not alignment with it in the form of wishing.
Imagination is the art of aligning the authentic desires of the soul to create images with the mind’s eye. The mind is a beautiful thing, but it can be easily led astray by the desires of the ego; a source of ourselves that has endless wants and desires. The imagination takes us to the place of who we are, and in that place, it shows us who we are to become.
The imagination takes us to the mystical, divine aspects of existence, where there is no doubt, fear or worry. The imagination gives us access to the part of our brains that is capable of experiencing “magic”— it is the world of Willie Wonka, artists, musicians, cooks, inventors, and writers—it is the “right” brain, located on its right hemisphere.
Keep in mind (pun intended): Without imagination, the world in which we currently exist would not be possible. No cell phones, no airplanes, no money, no cars, no modern conveniences.
My message for 2016 is to get in touch and recapture your gift of imagination. Turn off the TV and the Internet and reclaim and create your own images—be a rebel and refuse to let others take control of what you can conceive—resist images that make you feel worried or cause you to compare yourself to others.
You are here as a physical manifestation of your soul. You are not here to waste your time worrying about what you don’t have, but imagining what your soul wants you to do!
Below are tips for unleashing the power of the imagination and removing the shackles of the mind that feed on fear.
 Rituals:

• Create a home environment that triggers your creative essence through the intentional use of light, color, and scent. Let your imagination guide you! Invite in sunlight by opening curtains and moving furniture so that it feels right with your spirit.
• Use aromas to calm your mind and spirit. My favorite scents include vanilla, coconut, and sandalwood, which I burn in the form of incense.
• Spend at least 10 minutes a day to letting yourself be totally still while listening to the sounds of nature; in this stillness listen to the sounds of your own breath as you inhale and exhale. Practice being at one with your breath and the melodious sounds of creation that surround you. Give yourself permission to not worry, and to just be!
• Imagine a cord that extends from the top of your head to the heavens. Let your body and mind feel light and you surrender to the energy of the heavens infusing your physical body with its light and love.
• As you ease into this feeling of surrender, let your soul speak, and speak back. Tell your soul how much you love and trust it. Thank your soul for giving you this life and reaffirm that you are aligned with its intelligence.
• Begin to imagine your life as an expression of your soul whose only desire is to fulfill its mission. Let go of all preconceived notions, social conditioning and the voices and opinions of others and just listen.  
• As you allow the messages of your soul to flood your mind, feel yourself becoming excited about re-creating and re-inventing yourself! Feel the excitement of your potential, and the thrill of your self-confidence overwhelming you!

As you deepen and develop this ritual, it will become second nature to you, and there is no doubt that you will cease to be a rag doll at the hand of life’s ups and downs. There is no doubt that you will be able to envision and experience the magic of transformation in your life!
If you are interested in more information about personal transformation and manifesting through soul-alignment, please contact me.
Submitted in light and love and with every bright blessing!
Michelle
 
 
 
 

 
Like the word “love,” the word “spirituality” is a term that is often subjectively defined, and one that seems to be constantly evolving.  For example, when some of us think of love, we think of it in terms of being an acquisition; something that we either acquire in life or that we don’t, and in that way it is subjective depending on our experiences. In addition, when some of us think of love, we think of it as something that we have to fight for competitively, as in winning the love (or keeping the love) of another. While these subjective definitions are valid and worthy, the point is that when we think of love in these terms, it limits the concept of love to an outward expression, and acquisition (possession) of personal pleasure and gain.

But, what about the inward expression of love, how is that expressed and defined?  And furthermore, why do we often hear others lamenting that this is a “love-starved world”?
I will reveal my age now by asking if you remember the song, “What the World Needs Now is Love Sweet Love”?

You see where I’m going.

OK. Yes, the world needs love. I need love. You need love, we agree on that, but what we need to agree on is how to experience it in the way that the heart truly desires. The heart is not out for gain or pleasure, that’s the ego. The heart wants expansion of its potential, and spirituality is the tool for unleashing that potential.
Though spirituality has become a term that contains different viewpoints and perhaps religious concepts, for the purposes of this blog entry, I will define spirituality as an expression of self-love.
Don’t’ go scratching your head just yet!
Spirituality is an expression of self-love because it is a way of life that keeps us in constant contact with the essence of ourselves, why we are here, and the awareness of the divine light within. Spirituality is in an investment in the heart; it is an expression of self- love, just as it is an investment in self-love.

Ah! That word “awareness”! Yes, awareness is a necessary ingredient for being able to recognize who we are and where our love comes from—the heart—which is the seat of the soul and the source of intelligence in the human spirit.

So, how do we develop awareness, you might be asking? Yes, you are right. We develop awareness through spirituality, which means we actively participate in cultivating and expressing self-love. We develop habits of the heart where love radiates from within, where it resides.
Now, I recognize that this world is full of distractions, and it’s so tempting to get caught up in analyzing the behaviors and lifestyles of others, but the practice of awareness and developing habits of the heart means that we have to be reflective and willing to study ourselves.
We all want love, right? Well, here’s how to open ourselves to experiencing it in its most authentic and rewarding form.

1. Study your thoughts. Keep a log of your thoughts on a daily basis. Record and document what you think about the most each day in a journal. Thoughts are how we manifest our experiences. If our thoughts are anchored in fear and pain, we will continue to manifest more of those things in our lives. In contrast, if we think about loving ourselves, and loving life, we will attract more love and loving souls into our lives. Mental and spiritual hygiene are just as important as physical hygiene. Keep your thoughts and your spirit clean.
2. Practice the mental art of detachment. By this I mean letting go. Let go of attachment to desire, which only creates agony and obsessive thinking. There is no way to experience love if we are in agony and obsessed with our desires. And remember, most of the things that we have in this country, the majority of the world is praying for. Express gratitude every day!
3. Prioritize your thoughts and develop thought habits that are healthy and life-enhancing. Sure, we all experience letdowns and disappointments. But remember, that life is not about what happens to us, it’s about how we react to it. Record your reactions to life circumstances in your journal. There you will be able to see yourself more objectively and most importantly, you will be transparent with yourself, which is necessary for growth and expansion of the heart.
4. Take a hiatus from social media! Social media is a playground for narcissistic behavior, and narcissism is not self-love, it is self-obsession at the expense of others. Social media is the arena where illusion and confusion take precedence; it is the place where we are tempted to compare ourselves to others. Comparison is lethal to the human spirit. Only compare yourself to yourself, based on your growth alone.
5. Create beautiful spaces in your home that nurture and nourish your heart. Don’t be stingy with yourself! Purchase those things that light your senses and bring you a sense of peace and tranquility. Aromas and sounds (music) are known to have beneficial health effects to the heart and nervous system. Use them! Create! Create! Create! Cook for yourself and your loved ones; fill your home with pleasant aromas and your spirit with nourishing foods.
6. Delve into the world of imagination and allow it to take you higher! Remember when you were a child and lived in your imagination, and not the confines of your mind? Yes, you want to go back to that time. The imagination connects us to the heavens. The mind imprisons us in the distractions and desires of this physical world where there is fear and longing. Get in touch with your imagination by envisioning a temple space within your mind where you meet with your angels and higher guides; where you meet with the essence of who you are. This temple is your space alone, so be careful not to pollute or contaminate it with negative or pessimistic thought-forms. Be patient, though. It takes time and commitment to develop mental focus. Just know that this is YOUR space. No one else can touch it or enter without your permission. Decorate it as you wish, be creative! Make a daily habit of entering into your temple, where the God in you resides. Open the door to your own self-becoming, your own voice, and your own higher spirit. Record your experiences in your journal.
7. Lastly, because seven is a spiritual number, record your dreams in your journal. Dreams are the voice of the soul, and if we are diligent, we can access and hone that voice so that dreams are not merely machinations of our minds, but instead prophetic teachers that help direct us to our destinies and reveal that which is to come. Dreams open us to the spirit realm and awaken our psychic faculties. Don’t take them or this power lightly!

Daily Affirmations for Spiritual Growth:

• Mine is the path of uprightness, self-mastery, and self-love. I am not energized by the downfall of others.
• I am not a stepchild of the Universe. I am not a woman without a man. I am not a man without a woman. I am a much loved child of the Creator.
• I invest in those who invest in me because I love myself. I do not chase others because I trust that what is best for me, will stay.
• I am not a slave to fear and longing. I have all that I need to create a happy life.
• I am grateful for this life and all of the lessons it has brought me. Through my painful lessons, I have been brought closer to myself. My pain contains knowledge for my growth, self-correction and healing.
• I select my friends, lovers and mates based on the love I have for myself.
• I am not a victim.
• I am not an orphan.
• I am not alone without family and community.
• I am connected to the Creator and I honor the work of my ancestors. Without them, I would not be here.
• I am not a beggar or a thief of energy, love or light.
• I attract the highest good for myself, my children, my loved ones and friends.
• I am not ungrateful for my health and existence. My body and mind are sacred and I do not give them away recklessly to others.
• I have standards.
• I am here to Become one with my Being.

Thank you for reading and engaging. I welcome and ask for feedback and comments! If you would like learn more on spirituality as an act of self-love, please feel free to contact me for a consultation. I would love to hear from you!
Offered with love,
Michelle

Suggested Reading:

• Rudolf Steiner, “Intuitive Thinking as a Spiritual Path”
• Rudolf Steiner, “Theosophy”
• Isha Schwaller DeLubicz, “The Opening of the Way”

As a writer, I’m always up for a good read (and sometimes a not-so-good read) on topics that interest me, which are typically those on love, dating and relationships. So, when a friend recently suggested that I read one with a particularly “blunt” title (let’s call it that to be diplomatic), I was intrigued, and yet a bit offended. The name of the book is “The Power of the P”, and I’ll let you figure out what the missing four letters are at the end of the P.

Disclosure: My friend obtained the book for free and then allowed me to access it from her account. Neither of us would have paid a dime in Monopoly money to read that book, but let’s return to the real subject, which is Sacred Womanhood.

Ladies, I’ve written about protecting our merchandise and being aware of how we market it. For all intents and purposes, this blog expands on the same idea, which is that we as women have power, that when applied in a self-aware manner, gives us an extraordinary advantage in attracting and selecting quality mates. Now, because I am a woman, naturally I write about topics that are of concern to us, but the reality is that this topic is also of interest to men – they wanna know what we know, and they wanna know how to be more attractive to us, how to win us, and most importantly, how to KEEP us!

Therefore, though the title of this blog is “The Power of Sacred Womanhood” it is really about “Sacred Coupling.” Dating is like creating a piece of fine art: it requires discipline, attention to detail and timing, patience, and a willingness to start over again and again.

Outside of the parameters of Sacred Coupling, which can be defined as intellectual and spiritual admiration for the other, when a man and a woman find themselves in the throes of a purely superficial, self-centered, egotistical, or narcissistic form of attraction, or if their desires for a mate are motivated by a sense of being “starved,” the way the drama between them plays out usually goes something like this:

For the Woman:

• The man comes on strong, he’s in pursuit and he makes it known. He’s texting every day, he’s asking for dates, there are compliments, and he’s showering her with attention.
• The woman likes being pursued, maybe she hasn’t found someone she likes in a long time, or maybe she’s just craving some attention. He’s good looking, drives a nice car, and has a good job. Bingo! Who cares if he’s never had a long term relationship? Who cares if he’s been divorced twice before age 40? She likes him, he gives her “butterflies” and she’s now addicted to his attention, she can’t get enough of it, so she allows him to give it to her without limit.
• Sensing that she has let her guard down, the man ups his game, and comes on even stronger; more texting, more attention, more masculine intensity.
• The woman gives in, trusts that the intensity will last, and sleeps with him.
• The sexual chemistry was “amazing” she insists! And she secretly wonders if they’re soul mates; she’s never felt this way before! Her body responded to his intensity equally – this must be destined! She’s sure of it.
• Then, the intensity fizzles for him and she wonders why? She notices that he is no longer texting, no longer pursuing, and now she’s panicking. She calls a psychic. Hell, she might call a number of psychics, to the tune of $10 a minute trying to calm her nerves and assuage her fear of rejection.
• She is now in pursuit. She’s chasing him, and her chances for a long term commitment are next to none. 
• She’s bewildered, but since rejection hurts, she’s still wondering if one day they’ll marry and she’ll have his babies?
• To her, he’s the one that got away. For him, she’s the one that he got.

For the Man:

• The woman comes across as closed and cold, but hey, he thinks to himself, she’s got a nice pair of breasts and pretty lips and hips. Who cares if she’s mean-spirited ball of ice, or worse! An emotional train wreck! He’s gonna save her! He’s gonna win her over! He’s the man! Grrrrr!!!
• He puts on his charms: He gives her attention. She’s still closed. Heck! She won’t even return your messages and responds to you only when she feels like it. 
• He’s not too proud to beg, and that’s what he starts doing. Here come the gifts. If she’s broke, he pays her rent. If she needs new clothes, he buys them. If her grandma needs new dentures, he’s there with his checkbook.
• He has to have those breasts! He has to have those lips! He has to have those hips! He’ll go broke trying to buy them! And she lets him do just that. The sight of her gives him the tingly feeling inside! He’s convinced he’s in love and she’s “the one!”
• One day, she’s horny and she has sex with him. He’s convinced the Kundalini gods have blessed him. He’s convinced that she’s the missing peach to pear. She’s it!
• After the sexual encounter, she still does not open up. She is non-committal, or worse, she tells him that she’s getting the schlong from other guys. 
• He calls psychics, wondering if she’ll ever give in.
• He’s in pursuit of a shadow that keeps evading him. 
• He’s bewildered. His manhood and ego are deeply bruised, but since rejection hurts, he wonders if one day they’ll marry and she’ll have his babies?
• To him, she’s the one that got away. To her, he’s the one she got.

Sacred Womanhood

Contrary to the book I mentioned in the opening, a woman’s power is not between her legs. It’s in her character, it’s in the way she loves and accepts herself, and expresses her virtue. Sacred womanhood is about the confidence that comes from a deep place of self-worth; it’s about knowing how to respond to the reality of human psychology, which is that people want what they cannot easily get, and that the harder things are to get, the more we want them. Women who operate from the knowledge and power of sacred womanhood have standards and litmus tests that every man must pass. The sacred woman is the chooser and the chosen, not the chaser.

The sacred woman does not operate from a place of emotional, spiritual or sexual starvation. If single, she does not carry or perceive herself as a woman without a man. Most importantly, she doesn’t perceive herself as a woman without a God, culture, or family; she understands that she is intimately connected to the Creator, because her reflection reminds her that she is one of its finest pieces of Creation. A sacred woman doesn’t lead with her sexuality, and she insists that she is properly courted by her suitors. She understands the power of her sensuality, and she flaunts it because it’s mysterious, not because it’s easily accessible or on discount.

Lastly, a sacred woman is not an “independent woman.” She is an “inter-dependent woman.” She knows that life is about give and take, and her confidence allows her to recognize her vulnerabilities – because she knows – Sacred Women are naturally attracted to Divine Men.

What is the “Divine Man?” He is the mirrored image of the Sacred Woman.

Sacred Coupling

When a Diving Man and Sacred Woman meet, there is a deep and almost instant intellectual and spiritual admiration for one another. Since we are limited by language, in contemporary terms, this would be considered “love at first sight.” It would also be considered similar to the concept of “twin flame” or “soul mate.” There may be limited physical attraction, but the attraction of the intellect and spirit make physical attraction tertiary and unimportant. The minds and spirits begin to “dance” with one another, and the fulfillment of that dance is so satisfying to the soul that physicality is a mere speck in the vast scope and breadth of their connection.

A Sacred Couple will no doubt share a telepathic connection, which allows them to access each other’s thoughts and to comingle them in a harmonizing sensation of transcendence, joy and sheer delight.

Conclusion

Ladies, not all men are capable of expressing Divine qualities necessary for respecting your Sacred Womanhood. Your lesson is going to be to decipher who those types are and walk away quickly when they reveal their character. A sure fire indication that a man is not Divine is that he is either: Needy, clingy, inattentive, self-absorbed, or otherwise a liar, a user, a cheater, or an abuser. If you have found yourself in love with one of these types, it means you have work to do, and that work is about recovering your sacredness and protecting it forever, and against all odds. Remember what Sister Maya Angelou said: “When someone shows you who they are. Believe them.”

Gentlemen, not all women are capable of expressing the qualities necessary for handling Divine Manhood. Your lesson is to become conscious of your Divine Manhood and cleanse your spirit of the impediments that cause you to either become attached to emotionally unavailable women, or needy and clingy women, or women who otherwise exhibit behaviors that reveal broken self-esteem. You are only heroes for yourselves, and you cannot save a woman, you can only complement her.

All that has been written here has been in the spirit of love, harmony and order.

Brightest blessings to all – your sister,

Michelle 

I usually don’t have time to watch films, so when I recently had the chance to catch a romantic comedy I was delighted to indulge a simple but somewhat guilty pleasure. What caught my attention was something said by the main character, a lonely and reclusive aging widower, retired physicist, and all around constant complainer who said, “Love is all about luck.”

To that, I said: “Balderdash!”

The fact is that there are 6 billion people on this planet, and the overwhelming majority knows what it’s like to love or be loved, right?  


So, how is that luck?

Love exists for many reasons, but at its core, it exists as a set of lessons to prepare and teach us about how to truly share, how to grow and keep love relationships alive, and sometimes how to know when to let go.

Think about it: None of us would agree that anything we earned by stint of hard work came to us by way of luck! No way! We had to go through the lessons, the tests, and do the training to achieve all the skills we’ve acquired, right?

Same thing applies to love.

The Problem

In our modern era, love has become a commodity, something that exists in a marketplace where there shoppers compete intensely to “win.”  The result of this sort of marketplace competition is that love has become scarce and in high demand, which means it’s expensive, and most shoppers will go home empty handed. But this is not about luck at all; it’s about a human construction of it that is unhealthy and greed-driven – as in “I got mine, you get yours” – the result being usury disguised as love.

How many of us have felt used by those we’ve loved, and how many times?

False Generosity

Because we are conditioned to view love as a commodity, we often treat it as a possession that we can manipulate like a prop in a theatrical drama.

Love is not a commodity, and it is not a possession. It’s an energy unto itself, and a force that is beyond human manipulation; it is divine.  Capitalism is a human construction.  So, the next time you are tempted to use generosity to attain the affections or love from another, remember that you are attempting to buy love, and that your generosity is not authentic. It is a conditioned response to seeing love as a commodity; when you love, just as when you give, do so freely because you feel compelled, not because you expect something in return. Light up the sky with your love and let it shine and bring brightness to this love-starved world. And remember, love is not about luck. It’s about teaching us how to properly interact with ourselves, others and by extension the world of the divine.

Peace and blessings,

Michelle

Happiness and "true love" are two things that many of us seek on a daily basis. The craving for love has resulted in a billion dollar industry of self-help and theatrically-trained "life coaches" who promise to heal the world with their artificial ideas of spirituality.

But the fact is that true love and happiness are much simpler to attain than we often think, and we needn't over-rely on life coaches, gurus or self-proclaimed healers to achieve either; we are equipped by Nature to experience both on our own! We only experience misery when we are attached to wishing, agony, and the idea that we are deficient. The truth is that love and happiness are not things we attain (as possessions) from another, they are things we experience from being in touch with the Source of who we are, which is the Heart and the Original Mother of the human soul.

The truth is that misery only occurs when we become overly attached to the the idea of True Love as existing outside of ourselves. Misery occurs when we allow ourselves to obsess in fantasy about what we want, as egos, rather than what we already have as souls. 

Biological parents are the first bearers of true love that we experience as human beings. When they fail to transmit and express that true love, it sets us on a path of desperation to find it. The desperation then becomes a self-destructive set of behaviors  that leads us into one failed relationship after the next, trying to recover from that first loss.

But what we aren't taught, and what religion cannot teach us is that True Love comes from within, and that we have access to our own Mothers, the one who gave us life. True Love is the Original Source of our human existence; it is the Mother of the human soul and the life-giving force that shapes the contours of our human existence. The Mother is our destiny, it is our karma, it is our fate. So, if you want to heal your destiny, your karma, or your fate, get in touch with your Original Mother, your soul, because no one else can heal you and deliver from misery better than She.

Brightest Blessings,

Michelle

It's January, one of the coldest months of the year, so if you're wanting to incite more romance into your world, cook this dish for your lover! It's tangy, spicy and sweet, and will touch the palate and spirit - creating vibrations that are sure to stir up long lovemaking sessions!

Pair this dish with a nice Pinot Grigio and watch the sparks fly!

Chicken Picata and Spaghetti with Spinach Pesto.

Recipe is as follows:


Ingredients:

• 2-3 pounds of boneless, skinless chicken breasts.
• Regular unseasoned bread crumbs
• Extra virgin olive oil
• 1/2 cup of dry white wine
• 2 shallots or 1/2 Vidalia onion (thinly sliced)
• 2 lemons
• 2 tablespoons of capers
• 2 tablespoons of pitted green olives with pimento
• 1 tablespoon of pitted black olives
• 2 teaspoons of sugar
• 2 tablespoons of butter
• Lemon pepper, granulated garlic powder and granulated onion powder
• 1/2 teaspoon of dried oregano Handful of fresh basil Saran wrap.

Directions:

• Fold each chicken breast in between a piece of Saran wrap, then pound and flatten it with a mallet or meat tenderizer.
• After each piece of chicken is flattened, season each one liberally with lemon pepper and the other granulated seasonings, then coat them with bread crumbs and set aside.

Next, heat a large non-stick frying pan with about 2 tablespoons of olive oil on high heat. When the oil is hot, place each piece of chicken into the pan and fry lightly for about 2 minutes on each side - remove each piece after frying and place a separate plate with a paper towel covering it for drainage.

• To the frying pan add the butter and simmer until butter is melted, then add the wine and stir for about 3 minutes on medium heat.
• Next, add the olives (and juice) and capers - keep stirring on medium to low heat. Then add a pinch of white sugar, and keep stirring.
• As the sauce thickens, you may need to add a little chicken stock or water to thin it out; you want to have enough sauce left to return the chicken to the pan for simmering. After the sauce and wine have reduced, return the chicken to the pan and cover on low heat. Let the chicken simmer for about 15 minutes and then add the onions and basil. The entire dish will need to simmer for about 25 minutes.

Next, prepare the spinach pesto:
Ingredients:

• 1 handful of fresh Italian parsley
• I handful of fresh cilantro
• 1 handful of fresh basil
• 1 handful of fresh or frozen baby leaf spinach
• 1 handful of pine nuts or chopped walnuts
• 1/2 cup of pitted green olives in juice
• 2 cloves of garlic
• 1 squeezed lemon
• 2-3 Serrano peppers
• A dabble of honey

Pesto Directions:

In a blender or food processor, combine all ingredients and blend until smooth. Set aside in the fridge and keep cool.

• Cook 1 pound of spaghetti in olive oil and salt. When the pasta is ready (non al dente), toss it with 2 tablespoons of butter and 1/4 cup of pesto.

Serve the pasta immediately and garnish with chopped Italian parsley.